I think we all have read the story of Jesus walking on the water and how Peter came out to meet him. When Peter became afraid and began to sink Jesus rescued him and said "Oh thou of little faith, wherefore didst thou doubt?" -Matthew 14:31 Then they walked back to the boat together. I at least have heard this story about a hundred times. But here is something I've started thinking about more recently.
I think it's fairly safe to assume that Jesus wasn't angry with Peter. I don't think that the words "Oh thou of little faith, wherefore didst thou doubt?" were a reprimand.
Rather it sounds to me more like the sort of thing a parent might say to a child who has fallen over while riding a bike. After picking up the child and dusting them off a parent might say something like "you just need to peddle a little faster, don't be scared." This sort of thing isn't meant to make the child feel bad, but to point out to the child what they can do to improve.
Peter walked on water, he was doing great, and then like a wobbling child on a bike, he got scared, froze and fell. So Jesus picked him up, and told him where he needed to improve. While walking he had not had sufficient faith, and in order to be a disciple of Christ capable of performing miracles, he would need to develop more faith. It wasn't that he didn't have any faith, for heavens sake he just walked on water! but it was that he didn't have enough faith to be able to do anything in the name of Christ. And you know what? That's ok. Peter is not a horrible person because at that time he didn't have the faith necessary to finish walking to Christ. I don't think anyone has the faith sufficient to finish walking to Christ the first time, or the second time, or the third time. It's something that develops with time. We learn to walk to Christ as a child learns to walk to a parent falling, over and over again, but getting a surer footing with each try as we learn from his loving guiding arms.
In short, faith is trust. Faith in Christ is trust in Christ. You can't just decide from one moment to the next that your faith in Christ is going to go up 100 points, it's something that develops over time.
So how can this idea help you? Well let me address for a second a rather sensitive subject.
Prayers that never were answered, or that were answered with a no or promised blessing that were never realized.
Some people will tell you that God answers every prayer. This is not true. Prayers are to be given in Christ's name. And when we pray in the name of Christ we pray that which he would have us pray. Sometimes our prayers are not answered because as James said "Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss." If we ask after our own selfish desires and we do not pray striving to pray as Christ would have us pray, then the prayer may very well go unanswered.
But we are imperfect beings and even when we try to ask for what is right, we occasionally ask for something that isn't right and we are told no. In these two situations those that are praying have a lack of faith. That is not to say that they have no faith, but their faith or trust in Christ and knowledge of Christ is not sufficient to have prayed in a manner that may have been better.
I have been guilty of this thousands of times, so yes you could say that I lack faith, and that's ok! It is ok that we are not perfect in our faith. When we realize that we are lacking in our faith that gives us a chance to improve! What is NOT ok is when we try to blame something else and not recognize our lack of faith. Which brings me to my last point which is probably the most sensitive of them all.
Promised blessings that went unfulfilled.
I believe the culprit for a promised blessing that went unfulfilled in most cases is a lack of faith or trust. It may be that by a lack of faith we have failed to see the fulfilling of the blessing, or it may be that we simply did not receive the blessing. Thinking it this way can cause people to feel stung or hurt, but I hope it doesn't. At least not too much. Because in the end, the only blessings that really matter are the blessings of Eternal life. Earthly blessings are just ways for us to practice developing faith so that we may receive the blessings of Eternal life. God does not hate us for our lack of faith, he understands that it is something that we develop.
We would never get angry at a little league pitcher for failing to strike out a batter in a Major League Baseball Game. Why? because he's not ready to play at that level. In the same way God doesn't get angry if we fail to have enough faith or trust in him to receive certain blessings. Certainly he may sorrow in our suffering but he isn't angry with us.
One of the best things that we can do in a situation where we have failed to receive a blessing is to humbly accept that we are lacking in faith and approach the Lord so that we may have our weakness strengthened. For as the Lord said through the Prophet Moroni "I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them."
Sometimes our weakness is our faith. And if we can have just enough faith to approach him so that he can help us with our faith, he will make us strong.